If you’re preparing to divorce and you have a job where you need to go in to work and be around colleagues all day, it’s important to give some thought to whether to tell them and how much to share if you do. It’s also crucial to make a plan so that your divorce has minimal effect on your work. The last thing you need right now is to jeopardize your job.
Everyone’s workplace is unique. In some, colleagues are close and comfortable with sharing aspects of their personal life. Others are more impersonal and, in fact, bringing your personal life into the workplace is discouraged. Regardless of where your workplace falls within this spectrum, there are a few tips that everyone should consider.
Tell your boss before anyone else
It’s almost always wise to let your boss know sooner rather than later. You don’t need to share details. However, it’s wise to give them a heads-up that you may need to take time off for court and other legal obligations or possibly for added child care responsibilities. While you’re doing this, assure them that you won’t let your divorce affect your work or your commitment to the business.
If you choose to tell any other co-workers, it’s typically best not to until you’ve notified your boss. Managers generally don’t like to be out of the loop.
If you’re not telling anyone else, let your boss know that so they understand they need to keep the information to themselves. The same is true if you have to notify Human Resources personnel about a name, address, emergency contact or other change.
Limit distractions at work
Don’t let your divorce follow you into the workplace. That may mean not checking personal emails or voicemails at work – at least until you’re at lunch or somewhere you can deal with them properly.
Most legal and other professionals will refrain from contacting you during your work hours if you ask them unless it’s a time-sensitive matter. It’s best if you and your soon-to-be ex can agree not to do that as well (unless it’s an urgent matter about a child). This can help you keep divorce decisions and drama from distracting you from your work.
If you get experienced legal guidance, you can feel more assured that your divorce is in good hands. This can make it easier to compartmentalize your life, keep matters private and prevent your divorce from affecting your ability to do your job.
