When a marriage is no longer working, both parties will notice the changes. These include constant negative interactions, hardly talking, the loss of intimacy or shutting off. An irreconcilable matter may have led to this point. However, the parties may not reach a divorce decision at the same time.
If you decide you want to initiate a divorce, you need to inform your spouse. Here are three tips to help you.
Pick the right time and place
Telling your spouse that you want to dissolve the marriage is not easy. Even though your marriage may not have been working for a long time, your spouse may be shocked upon informing them. For this reason, you should pick the right time. It may not be best to inform them when they are going to work. Perhaps, choose after work hours to have the conversation.
Further, you should do it in a private place like at home. However, if you are concerned about your safety or your spouse has a strong emotional response, choose a public place but in a private setting.
Be straight to the point
Deciding you want a divorce may take time. You want to be sure you want it before informing your spouse. It will help to be straightforward when having the conversation. Besides, use “I” when communicating and avoid blaming anyone.
Be prepared for anger
Your spouse may be upset by the news. Nonetheless, remain calm and listen to them. You may not agree on major issues during this first conversation. Therefore, try to understand their concerns without making decisions, especially if you have children.
Divorce conversations are challenging, but practical tips may help you. However, this is just the first step. You should consider getting professional guidance when making subsequent decisions.