A nanny becomes a part of the family once they’ve been with you for a while. If the parents end up going through a divorce, the situation will impact the children and the nanny.
There are several things that you need to think about if you’re divorcing and have children who are cared for by a nanny. The goal is to put as little stress on the nanny while making sure the kids have what they need to thrive.
Rules for the nanny
If possible, come up with a set of rules that will apply at both homes so the nanny doesn’t have to try to remember two different sets of rules. The more you can keep things consistent between both homes, the easier it will be for the nanny to do their job. This can also help the children to adjust and feel more secure.
Communication with the nanny
It can be hard for the nanny to keep things straight. Be sure that you’re speaking to the nanny about what the kids need. Additionally, don’t try to use the nanny as a source of information, a sounding board or a messenger between households or parents.
Pay for the nanny
You must decide how the pay for the nanny will be handled. Each parent might pay for the time the nanny is caring for the kids during their parenting time. The parents might each cover a preset percentage of the nanny’s pay. One parent might be solely responsible for paying for the nanny. Determining this as soon as possible after the split is important.
Preparing a parenting time schedule is important in these cases. The nanny needs to know when the child will be with each parent. You may also need to put some terms into the parenting plan regarding the nanny. Working with someone who knows what’s necessary for these high asset divorces is crucial so you don’t waste time trying to figure out what to do.